These six compassionate superpowers help us have meaningful, truly compassionate conversations with people when they need someone to talk to.

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Below you can find out what makes each superpower unique, and some handy tips on how to hone your compassionate conversation skills.

Listening attentively compassionate superpower

Listening attentively

This superpower is about understanding what others say.

You avoid the temptation of listening to respond or judge, and when appropriate respond and reflect on what you have heard.

There is attention to what is being said, and what is not being said.

Responding mindfully compassionate superpower

Responding mindfully

This superpower can make the difference between a compassionate conversation and one that is not.

Responding mindfully shows that we are considerate of the other person’s feelings and not just saying the first thing we think.

Responding mindfully supports bereaved people, and avoids unnecessarily causing people harm or offence.

Being observant compassionate superpower

Being observant

This superpower can make the difference between a compassionate conversation and one that is not.

You pay attention and look out for signals. This is important because it assists you in understanding what people are saying and interpreting their moods and emotions that others may miss.

Being observant can take some extra effort, but when done well is appreciated by all, and in this context it supports bereaved people.

Managing silence compassionate superpower

Managing silence

This superpower is about giving space to the other person and encouraging them to explore their needs and feelings.

It takes a great deal of patience and it reinforces the message that the focus of the conversation is on the bereaved person.

It shows you respect the other person.

It shows we are aware that feelings may be complicated and need time to reflect on or articulate. It allows the other to express feeling as they arise.

Respecting emotions compassionate superpower

Respecting emotions

Bereavement can bring up lots of different emotions.

All of us will react differently, even if experiencing a similar loss. These differences can make the process feel isolating, and we may worry that we are not grieving the ‘correct’ way.

Respecting emotions means we don’t try to change or tell others how to feel. We manage our own emotions in the conversation.

We don’t suppress how we are feeling, but rather pause them to give the other person space, time and respect. When we respect emotions we validate how the other person is feeling and make them feel less alone.

Considering perspectives compassionate superpower

Considering perspectives

This superpower is about attempting to see a situation from a point of view outside of our own.

We are not trying to imagine ourselves as the other person but rather using what we have heard and seen in order to understand why they may be responding how they are.

Bereavement affects us all differently and is often a result of our individual stories such as our upbringing, culture or personality.

Considering perspectives means restraining judging others and being open minded instead. It shows you have flexibility of perspective.

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